I take issue with the dating advice column printed in last Friday's edition of The New Hampshire. This article, published by "Dr. Durham," offers readers "15 ways to get yourself noticed by the opposite sex." The column's title, "Dear Dr. Durham," suggests some sort of professional, medical opinion relegating the singular and implicitly "normative" sexual preference of our student body. The article's presentation, one column for "girls" and one for "guys," separated by a vertical black line, reflects the social myth that there are only two gender categories and, subsequently, only two rigid forms of gender expression. Readers need only to turn to the Arts Section in last Friday's paper to be reminded of the fallacy of the "girl/guy" binary: a thoughtful, well-written review of Duncan Tucker's new film "TransAmerica" highlights the social exclusion that results from reliance on the extreme gender stereotypes referenced in "Dr. Durham's" advice column.
"Dr. Durham's" article not only erroneously assumes a link between anatomical sex, gender expression and sexuality, but it also prescribes a specific brand of heterosexuality that diminishes individual identities with sweeping generalizations. Claims such as "every girl will notice" or "a guy likes it when you call him cute" serve as a means of totalizing and ultimately homogenizing gendered experiences. Instead of being represented as the diverse student body we are, a group made up of exciting variations in histories, sexualities, gender expressions, nationalities and ethnicities, we are lumped together as one mass of sameness that pathetically posits physical appearance at the forefront of human interaction. "Dr. Durham's" concluding suggestion, that girls should simply "be [themselves]," hardly seems possible given the limited options of "acceptable" behavior presented.
While I understand this article was likely meant as a novelty, I only ask that, in the future, the editors of TNH take into consideration the wide spectrum of diversity that comprises our community before offering us any more advice.
Meghann McCluskey Senior
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