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Bekah Hawley leaves an imprint on many orgs

By Amanda Beland

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Published: Monday, November 2, 2009

Updated: Tuesday, November 3, 2009

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Amanda Beland

Bekah Hawley

Amanda Beland

Bekah Hawley has taken her place in the UNH community seriously, participating in a number of organizations.

If you’re involved on campus, you’ve probably met Bekah Hawley. She’s an activist of all trades, dabbling in more activities and clubs than even she could fit into one sentence. She’s warm, enthusiastic and actively looking for more ways to understand and question the world around her. And she wants to inspire her peers to question society, too.

“My absolute passion is trying to get people to think of things in a new way,” Hawley said. “My passion is trying to get people to question their boundaries and see things from a different perspective, because, especially in this day and age, it’s easy to put blinders on.”

 Hawley was born in New Jersey, but moved to Derry, N.H., at age nine with her mother, Diane, her father, Curt, and her younger sister, Rachel. With New York City less than an hour away from New Jersey, Hawley said she remembers growing up in a diverse, suburban area, where her neighbors strongly identified with their unique cultural heritage.

 But Derry was where Hawley cites first recognizing what she refers to as “homogenized whiteness.” No longer did her neighbors identify strongly with religion, culture or ethnicity, something that a nine-year-old Hawley missed.

 “When I was younger I didn’t have words for it, obviously,” Hawley said. “But as I grew older I sort of came to realize that the New England area is very deep in the idea of homogenized whiteness, that white people don’t have an ethnicity and different cultural experiences, which is very sad because it allows for more of a group thinking mentality and it doesn’t allow people to celebrate their own specific heritage.”

 Also at age nine, Hawley first started questioning her sexuality. Hawley was sitting up late one night after her parents and sibling went to bed. While watching TV, she saw a lesbian couple and thought about how nice it would be to be in that kind of relationship. This single thought, according to Hawley, would dramatically affect her mood and state of mind for the upcoming years until she finally came out to a friend her freshman year in high school.

 “When I was in middle school I didn’t really deal with it,” Hawley said. “I was depressed a lot, and I had a close group of friends but I didn’t really talk to them much either. I was just very alone.”

 Hawley first came out as questioning, though this would later switch to bisexual, then lesbian, then queer, a process that Hawley stresses is a natural and normal part of celebrating and embracing one’s identity.

 “Coming out is a continuous process. It’s not something you do once. I’m coming out to you right now or I did the other day,” Hawley said.

 During the summer between her freshman and sophomore year, Hawley realized she wanted to start exploring her identity more in-depth. As a result, upon returning to class at Pinkerton Academy her sophomore year, she joined her school’s Gay, Straight Support Club (GSSC), her first taste of activism.

 During Hawley’s sophomore year, she experienced some flak for coming out, including two unidentified people on two different days, trying to run Hawley and her partner off the road they were walking while yelling a derogatory word at them. These incidents, as well as most of the criticism Hawley received, pushed Hawley even more into activism.

 “It mostly made me really scared,” Hawley said. “I feel constantly reminded that hate crimes do happen in New Hampshire, like people get murdered for not fitting within a gender binary.”

 By the time her junior year rolled around, Hawley was running her high school’s GSSC.

 “I joined my sophomore year and met some LGBTQ folks and I started getting more involved in activism,” Hawley said. I got really involved in that.”

 During Hawley’s senior year in high school, she began a relationship with a woman, who would later transition to the opposite gender. Hawley made the decision to stay with this person, despite her leadership position in the GSSC and her identity as a lesbian, both of which were contradicted by being in a relationship with a male. Hawley and her partner received a lot of criticism for their decision, which only pushed Hawley more into activism.

 When Hawley began applying to college, her first choice was Simmons College in Boston. Hawley settled upon UNH because of their sustainability program, which she described as having “a rich history in activism.” She also realized that UNH would be a more financially savvy college choice.

 Hawley, now a sophomore, is a member of two sub-commissions of the president’s commission on the status of people of color- “What White Folks Can Do About Racism” and “The Status of Women.” She is also the business manager for the Student Environmental Action Coalition (SEAC), the keeper of peace of the Peace and Justice League, a Safe Zones facilitator and a volunteer for the Committee on Rights and Justice (CORAJ), which happens to be her internship this semester.

 Hawley is also a triple major in psychology, women’s studies and queer studies, which she said applies almost directly to her involvement on campus.

 Though Hawley’s life is pretty hectic, she finds time to sit and read, hang out with friends around campus and lend an ear to anyone and everyone who needs it.

 Sarah McGraw, the executive director of SEAC and Hawley’s best friend, describes Hawley as warm and outgoing. She said Hawley is someone who immediately became one of her close friends when they met during the Power Vote campaign last year.

 “One night I was really stressed out in the [SEAC] office,” McGraw described. “And I felt really overwhelmed with everything. Bekah really worked hard to cheer me up and make me laugh and feel like I wasn’t the only person who was freaking out and overwhelmed.”

 Through academics, extracurricular clubs, volunteering and being a good friend, Hawley still describes herself as a bookworm who enjoys being alone at times and reading.

 “I’m really flattered by the attention I get, but – and no one believes me when I say this but – I really do like to just sit in my room, by myself and read a book. I’m a very independent person,” Hawley said.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comments

4 comments
Clark Kent
Tue Nov 3 2009 18:58
"more activities and clubs than even she could fit into one sentence."

If that's your lede, and your headline is about her involvement in student orgs, how come we don't a mention of the groups she participates in until the seventh-to-last paragraph? And even then, it's more of a passing mention before we get her best friend telling us how awesome she is.

Not that Ms. Hawley doesn't have a fascinating life story, but the story doesn't match the headline.

Bekah Hawley
Tue Nov 3 2009 16:34
I would agree with you that homogenized whiteness is not just a New England phenomenon, in fact, I would argue that this can be seen in a variety of places. However, I was speaking from my own experience. And my experience was with the southern New Hampshire area( I therefore wouldn't feel comfortable talking about other areas). I would agree with you that New England has a strong sense of regional pride, however, I'm not sure that a "melting pot" is in fact the phenomenon that is occurring and I would certainly say that this is not the experience of everyone in New England.

And yes, anonymous poster: liberals.

Anonymous
Tue Nov 3 2009 09:22
Liberals.
Andy
Tue Nov 3 2009 09:05
The "homogenized whiteness" isn't a New England phenomenon, but rather Southern NH/North Mass one. If you take a look at Rhode Island, coastal Maine, and eastern Mass, you find strong cultural and family ties with the traditions of families continuing to be carried on. One thing I have noticed since the time I moved to NH is the lack of cultural heritage. Regional heritage is strong (witness Candia, NH's extreme efforts to preserve their rural farming culture). But there are no Italian bakeries, no Portuguese restaurants and only a smattering of French-Canadian churches that still serve the community with a Mass spoken in the language. NH is a melting pot that has mixed the fondue so thoroughly that the individual flavors are near impossible to identify.






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