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Sex book tells pretty much everything: "Guide To Getting It On!" By Paul Joannides
By Cara Murphy
Friday, January 28, 2005
Face it, your parents did it, your neighbors are currently doing it and that guy sitting across from you is probably thinking about it. Yes, I'm talking about sex, more specifically "The Guide to Getting It On!" by Paul Joannides, a book so popular that it's being used in college class rooms around the country. During my research, every friend of mine, be they male, female, single, involved, gay, straight, regardless of age; EVERYONE wanted to borrow this book. Luckily, I managed to hang onto it for just long enough to uncover its dirty little secrets.
At 21, I've managed to gather a rather eclectic group of close friends who each have their own explicit stories to tell, and I would have thought that by now I had learned about every aspect of sex there was. Apparently I missed a couple chapters. Luckily Paul Joannides came to the rescue and put together this reader-friendly book, complete with everything you didn't realize you were missing out on. From the history of sex including, bras, birth control and Barbie, to every kind of sexual act from every imaginable perspective, it all has been included in these well crafted pages.
Joannides took a unique approach when writing this encyclopedia on sex. Written in a light-hearted, personal tone, this is the kind of book where even if there is a subject area you are personally uncomfortable with, it is presented in such a way which makes it penetrable to the most timid of readers. If you ever had any doubt that something was wrong with you physically, mentally, or emotionally in relation to your body, other bodies and/or their possible interactions, this book does everything in its power to convince you otherwise, in an attempt to get readers to set aside their own insecurities and become better lovers for themselves and their partners. A 19 yr old male friend of mine was also given a copy of this book for Christmas from his thoughtful aunt who knew that, "as a teenage boy he probably wouldn't ask adults questions about this subject," and that she, "wanted him to have a source he was comfortable with to get the answers to current and future questions."
"In our vast library of sex books, this is by far and away the most human, enlightening and entertaining read of the lot. I'll be recommending it until my keyboard wears out." Cosmopolitan Magazine, UK
Joannides never tries to force his feelings on love and the different aspects of lovemaking on the reader; rather he gives us the opportunity to explore our own ideas along with the guidance of a friend.
"Do not expect that being a great lover will make up for being a selfish person," says Joannides. "Some women will overlook bad manners and social lunacy for a good lay, but they have their own emotional problems and will make your life a living hell in other ways." Sounds to me like good advice for anyone in or looking for a relationship.
Thankfully, at no point does the "Guide" read like a high school Sex Ed text book. I distinctly remember letting a boy in one of my classes fill in my charts of the male and female organs for me and never learning anything about them. Don't worry this book includes many tastefully detailed drawings by Daerick Gross Sr. which labels everything you'd ever want to know about your own body as well as anybody else's. You will find few set in stone facts in this book, which is based more from the experience of the author and his readers.
"This book has no charts or graphs. If you are the type who's bamboozled by such things, consider the following: how do you graph the value of a loving glance or heartfelt hug? Yet try and enjoy sex without them." Joannides writes about the material as if he were having a conversation with his readers and it was nothing more than catching up on old times back in the neighborhood. His mix of honesty and humor makes this rather large guide of love approachable for readers with varying amounts of free time and attention spans.
Comments from readers of previous additions, everyday people who are not by any means experts on sex, help to keep this instruction manual on a very down to earth level. Really can there be anyone who is an expert on sex and matters of the heart; I don't think so. We are basically all trying to figure this crazy thing out, and I believe that Joannides has done a great job of giving us a starting point. Want a preview of this book? Go to the publisher's page www. goofyfootpress.com but don't be afraid to click on the buttons!
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